Life Coach| Beginning a Coaching Relationship
In my previous discussion, I have discussed many
qualities of a Client & coaching relationship. Now let’s take a look at certain
ways to successfully begin a Client
& coaching relationship.
Why? Is a great
place to start to determine the reason the client wants to have a coaching
relationship. What vision of themselves
or the future compels them? Can a coach
help you see what they would like to see in themselves or the future?
Here
are some kinds of questions a coach can ask a client and at the same time a
client should be ready beforehand.
- Why are you interested in being coached?
- What happened that was the last straw where you were like, “I’ve got to have help with this?”
- What goal do you hope to achieve?
- How much of a priority is achieving this goal in your life?
- What kind of commitments are you willing to make to achieve this goal?
- What kind of sacrifices are you expecting to make to pursue this goal?
A
coach can help the client start connecting the passion to change with gripping
pictures by asking questions like:
- Give me a picture of the future that you see if this goal was reached?
- How would the world change if you reached your goal?
- What are the biggest changes you expect if you reach your goal?
- What does it mean for your family for this goal to be accomplished?
- What happens if you’re not able to achieve this goal?
- Where are you at 5 years down the road?
Important
for the coach: “Do NOT expect that you can remember the details. Very few people will”.
After clients have spoken in some detail, coach should take
a minute to lay out what coaching really is?
This is amazingly important because many clients tend to assume that
coaching means mentoring, consulting, or even counselling but it’s not.
(I)- Initiate the Relationship, A coach should explain what coaching is?
In my last topic Foundations of Coaching& Client relationship, I talked
If both parties want an authentic relationship, both can begin to model taking a risk and sharing personal stories with one another.
Particular share things like below will help both clients
& coach to initiate this authentic relationship:
- Challenges, trials, failures
- Turning points, catalyzing moments, defining moments
- Share personal details like dreams, goals, names of family members, etc.
Remember: we’re building a relationship where influence
is going to be the key. Holding your
life to yourself is something an authority figure might do, but not so in this
relationship.
(S) – Sign an Agreement
An agreement is going to specify expectations from the
get-go. Nothing is worse than getting
into a relationship that you thought was one thing and then 3 or 4 months down
the road, there is a conflict that has to be cleaned up because of unmet
expectations.
Signing an agreement might seem a little uncomfortable
for an authentic relationship, but it actually creates an expectation that we
will always be clear, concise, and have everything out on the table.
Some things that you should include are:
- How long are we expecting the relationship to last?
- How often we will meet
- How long will our meetings last
- What are our primary ways of the meeting? (Phone, coffee, etc.)
- Meeting on time
- What happens if we miss a meeting (i.e. rescheduling, still paying if the client no-shows)
- Relational boundaries when it comes to time and availability
- What parts of the meeting stay at the meeting?
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A lot of discussions will take place in this initial
meeting; a clear goal needs to be set with action items that will keep the
client motivated when they leave.
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